Your First Quaker Meeting in Six Steps

  1.    You’re welcome as you are. Dress comfortably (ties are fine too)

  2. Sit anywhere you like

  3. In the quiet of Quaker meeting, look inside

  4. If moved, speak from the heart. If not, listen

  5. After people speak, allow a moment for reflection. Out of respect, we avoid responding to others during worship

  6. We encourage you to stay for tea after if you are able


A Quaker Meeting is based on silence, but it is a silence of waiting in expectancy. The silence may last for quite some time, perhaps a half hour or more. But that does not mean that nothing is happening. All of us are trying to come nearer to each other and to God as we are caught up in the still spirit of the Meeting. We do not worship in isolation but try to hold an awareness of all those gathered with us, uniting in a common purpose, so that the waiting and listening becomes an act of sharing.

 There is no dress code so come as you are and feel free to wear whatever makes you feel your best. Meeting for Worship starts as soon as the first person enters the room and sits down. It is helpful if the Meeting can settle a few minutes before the appointed time, but we prefer your company to your absence.

 Go in as soon as you are ready. Sit anywhere you like but if possible, leave seats near the door for latecomers. Children may be present for a time at the beginning or the end of Meeting, and may have their own activities with us or in another room.

 You may find it easy to relax in the silence and thus to enter into the spirit of the Meeting, or you may be disturbed by the strangeness of the silence, by distractions outside or by your own roving thoughts. Do not worry about this; we all find it difficult to settle at times, but we return again and again to the still centre of our being, where the presence of God can be known. Try, if only for brief periods, to be quiet in body, mind and spirit. Bring whatever is pressing on your mind to the Meeting. It can be a time of insight, revelation, healing, or calm.

 The silence may be broken if someone present feels called to say something which will deepen and enrich the worship. Anyone is free to speak, pray or read aloud an appropriate passage, provided it is done in response to a prompting of the Spirit which comes in the course of the Meeting. The silence is broken for the moment but it is not interrupted.

 Listen to what is said in an open-minded, charitable spirit. If something is said that does not speak to your condition or need, try nevertheless to reach the spirit behind the words. The speaker wants to help the Meeting; take care not to reject the offering by negative criticism.

Each of us brings our own life’s experiences to Meeting. Some will thankfully accept God’s inexhaustible love shown in Jesus, the promise of forgiveness and the setting aside of past failure. Others, who feel less affinity for the notion of God, may seek to be open to people in a spirit of love and trust.

In the quietness of a Quaker Meeting those present can become aware of a deep and powerful spirit of love and truth that transcends ordinary experience. We seek to become united in love and strengthened by truth so that we enter a new level of living, despite the different ways in which we may account for this life-expanding experience.

 After about an hour, two Friends will shake hands to mark the end of the worship. The Clerk then may announce forthcoming events and give news of members. Afterwards, do feel free to stay for tea and snacks. Speak to someone nearby, particularly if you wish to know more about Quakers.   Literature is usually available, and books can often be borrowed from the library about Quaker values, work, and history.